What do I mean?
I was just recently wondering – where is the internal switch of independency. What is the real reason for the child to decide – MOM, I have enough of your care and I want to be on my own. And they start to be on their own, they start to do things on their own…..just perfect.
It is sooooo nice and comfortable when they start to use this life posture. And it is one of the moments when I start to feel again free.
And how you will recognise that this switch is “ON”? Simply……your child (in my case Carlitos, 4,5 years old) starts to use his MOM let me…..I will do it on my own. MOM…I will run faster to the kinder and change my close on my own. MOM!!…let me tight my shoe laces on my own….etc.
And you know what! The hardest part in the end is to LET THEM DO THE THINGS ON THEIR OWN!…….Uffff after so many years being behind their backs NOW is the time to forget it and let them go.
I remember smart words of my mother in law. She said once to me: “Zlata! Kids are borrowed to us only for short time! Enjoy now! Because soon they will grow and you need to let them go!”……And this phrase “MOM, I WANT TO DO THIS ON MY OWN!” is for me just first step and practice of this smart life truth. :)……I am sad and happy at once.