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WARNING!!!!………….. babies are smarter than we think 🙂

Uffffff………….. 7 hours of constant cry, do you think that your baby is able to manage that? I can ensure you…. YES he/she can. After yesterday’s experience I decided to share with you what happened to let all parents think about the instincts and baby behavior at infant age.

We were having great day as parents with our son. He slept about 4,5 hours at night and he let mum rest nicely. He was then active whole day, smiling, watching, communicating in his cute lovable way. When I started to show him pictures of different animals and kept telling him their names he paid attention. He was sleeping after every breastfeeding (so every 3 hours he had a short beauty nap). But then came th evening and he started to be impatient and kind of nervous, his hands were shaking around his head and after last breastfeeding he started to cry. We thought, OK lets change the nappy and it will be OK. But it was not. We wrapped him tight and he stopped for a while, but then probably his gases were coming more and more and he was crying and crying even Carlos was caring him through the flat hall. We thought colic is here……… we can not do anything special. We a massage to Edie’s belly, we did exercises, we applied SAP SIMPLEX drops, we put hot towels on his belly. We knew that colic is a natural process for developing the micro flora in Edie’s intestines. We had to hold on and with patience and love release his pains.

This took about few hours and than we recognized that he stopped to cry when being carried and he started to cry only in the time when he was not observed, touched or carried………. in that moment probably started the other part of Edie’s behavioral test. Because always when Carlos wanted to rest a bit, after carrying him already 3 hours in a row Edie started to cry. Even when he wanted to lay down and just simply play with him he cried again. If we would have known what we know now we would stopped this endless carriage. We know that a baby in this time is asking for love and safety which used to get from hugs and caress but everything has its limits.We would probably also gave him a dummy to calm him down (I do not like to give baby dummies as the tool for calming him down and stop being active but as calming tool is sometime really useful – his chewing imitate the chewing of breast nipple which makes the baby calm down and feel comfortable).

Carlos was carrying Edie something about 7 hours………….. Great job daddy, this is cool exercise I think. But at the end it was about 1 am when Edie used to be breastfeed and go to bed for longer sleep, we were tired of watching his red face and listening constant shouting.  So we changed the approach. Carlos realized this change of behavior. That Edie was crying only when he was not carried and when he was not moving by being hugged. And that he always stopped to cry when daddy took him into his arms and started to walk………..but try to keep doing that since 5pm till 1am and then we can talk. So what followed was a direct explanation of our son how the things should work. I did breastfeeding as usually at 1 am and then Carlos talked to Edie, that he is not nice guy and he is abusing us. We put him into the bed with us, we wrapped him tight and since he was lying on aside and watching me I pretended that I am sleeping. He was observing me with his huge dark eyes and always when I moved or even open my eyes a bit he started to have prompt of cry, but since I kept my eyes closed and I was not moving he fell a sleep and after long time we had a smiling and resting baby.

So yesterday lecture was really educative and I proved an old fact for myself that babies tries to push and test parent’s limits since early age. It is just up to us how we do understand our baby and how we are able to cope with their constant change of behavior.

TOP SECRET: LOVE YOUR BABY, CARRY HIM BUT DO NOT OVER CARE HIM………… it will be used against you in the future!!!!!

SOOOOOOO BE CAREFULL AND OBSERVE

About zlatavaskova

Young always smiling mom of 2 boys . Finished her master degree at the Economical University in Brno (Czech Republic) country in the heart of Europe. Heading new life stage with a brand new role in my future life career. I have been working for student NGO AIESEC, playing accordion for 11 years, swimming as a competitive mono flip swimmer, singing in a teenage choir and joining different hobbies when any opportunity appeared. I love traveling and exploring new countries so that's why I have been studying abroad (Finland, Thailand), working abroad (Estonia) and daddy of my kids is from Venezuela :). I am a passionate dancer too. Now working for various projects, passionate about a vegan diet.