How Edie saved me from my own fears and pain

To my beloved son Edie, my savior

This post will be special because of two special reasons. The main player will be Eduardo and the second reason is that this will already touch his mental development.

So I was astonished by his behavior recent days and wanted to share with you.

First case study: I promised Edie to go to theatre with his nursery school group. And I was talking about it with him the whole previous week. Because I know how much he likes to be watching popets and movies and simply. He loves to be reading books and telling stories. So I put into my phone callendar the date and time of the meeting with the group. Not to forget about it.

And the day “D” we woke up quite early, we had breakfast and got dressed to be ready. And because I had in my mind that the meeting time is at 9:30 I was sure that we have plenty of time to reach that meeting place. Also Carlos stayed that day at home because I was supposed to have one business meeting later in the afternoon so for easier logistic purposes he was working from home, so I could leave also Carlitos at home with him. So great combination. I could calmly go only with Edie and enjoy being out for short time.

And then we went to the meeting place inside of the shopping mall. Outside was -10°C so it was a good reason to hide for us. Edie felt few times on the ground outside so he did not look any more that clean and ready for theater, but it did not matter that much for me. But then we were waiting 10 min, 20 min, 30 min…and still nobody else was coming. Then I thought lets check the meeting point on the website of the kinder through my phone. And by reading it…….sh..! I messed the time. I felt sooo sad. By my  silly mistake Edie lost the theatre he enjoys. And curiously in that moment I realize what have happened. That we missed that I apologized to Edie. That I am sorry, that I am silly but I confused the time of meeting with the others.

And then it happened! When he saw my sad face, he looked at me with his big eyes and said. Mom it will be fine. Do not cry! (Even I was not, thought I was about to). He Carresed and touched my head and said:” you know lets go out and enjoy the snow”! It was amazing feeling. He showed so much empathy in his early age. He saw that I am sad and he made my day better. I was so happy from it and started to feel better. I just thought, THANK YOU EDIE

Second case study: I went for Edie to kinder and because there was in the same time our friend Vojta, we decided to go together with him, his mom Ana and Carlitos in the trolley out. There was a fresh new show fall so I decided that it will be nice time for Edie to enjoy the first snow. But I did not consider that I did not prepare myself enough for the coldness outside. There was about -12°C….. brrrr hell cold. But we were walking with Ana and Vojta, talking, Carlitos was sleeping in the trolley, so everything seemed to be fine. Until Carlitos woke up after one hour and started to cry of hunger. But I could not take him out easily to feed him, because breastfeeding in -12°C is nothing pleasant. So I decided and told Edie if we could go home because of Carlitos is crying of hunger and I would prefer to go home because I was freezing. My feet were getting hell cold same as my fingers.

So what happened on the way. Edie since he had bicycle in the snow he was slow, also on purpose, enjoying the ride. He was falling also on the ground because the road was slippery. So in the beginning I understood his snow game but after a while because of crying Carlitos and my freezing body I could not stand more. So I calmly came to Edie and with the pain in my eyes I explained him what is happening. That I am freezing, that my feet and fingers hurts and that Carlitos is crying because of hunger and also that is not good for him to be crying and breathing cold wind. And I asked him if he could speed up to reach our home faster!

And again I saw Edies gase, his big eyes turn to me. He first kissed me on my cheek, after caressed my head and started to go faster. He was falling on the ground many time, without crying even with the mouth full of snow he stood up and continued riding his bike. He was doing his best, even on the places where he used to have problem to ride his bike he was strong and coped with them and overcame them. I was basically running back home, since I did not feel my fingers already. I was promising myself to get new warm shoes. And Edie was really strong. I was proud of him. And again he showed his strong empathy for his mom and he was behaving as big strong boy. And I realized a that moment how much he has grown.

So few facts to consider:

• Edie is 2 years and 11 month old
• He is attending nursery school since he was 1,5 year old
• He got his brother Carlitos when he was 2 years and 2 month old
• And he is starting to communicate in Czech and Spanish in the same time. So it is not easy to for him to grasp the full meaning of the words.

So while having not full 3 years yet he is according to my feelings very nicely psychically shaped. I am surprised every day. There are moments when he is telling me “I do not want to go home with mom from the kinder. It costs us cry and discomfort but on the other hand if needed he shows how much he cares about me. And how much he loves me. 

And in this special moments I am realizing the meaning of the sentence which said Eliska, the director of the Edie’s kindergarten

You as parent, you should never think that: 3 years of the kids age are like 2*1,5 year. And also 6 years old baby does not mean by its development double 3 years old. Always you have to consider the unique personality of every child, the environment which the baby is exposed to and also the personal characteristics of the child. And now I see, now I learn and now I accept.