Message: Family life as entity
I supposed that every child if it’s part of the working family circule feels the same. That family should be one entity made of parents and kids.
I realized how much Eduardo in his age of 4 needs to be ensured of this entity. He feels safe while feeling: yeas I am going out with dad or mom but in the end of the day we will be all together.
He is picturing and drawing all the time our family and shows the importance of it. He never forgets any member of the family. He puts the name and describes the each family member.
I am realizing more and more how importnat role plays family in our feelings of comfort, safety and security. That we need to let our kids leave us but to ensure them they they have always place to come back.
In order to take this away from their life they starts to feel unsecured, lost and they do lost the connection with the base feeling which they need and that is meaning of “MY HOME”
I am not person which would be strictly against divorce and splitting of people. If there is good reason for it as violence or real unhappiness and stress of people I can understand it. BUT if there are already kids we should always think also in them. How much it will affect them and which kinds of mark we will leave in their hearts and which footprint we will create for them.
I can see in tens of families of my friends and far friends who got divorced that their kids are nowadays more unstable and less confident about themselves and lot of this feelings come back to the moment when their parents splited. So My wish is, think twice and act once.
Love your life and your family life, each of us are unique and has its own life path. But together we are strong