Holaaaaaaa dear friends and parents
I have just passed two very crying days of my son. He is turning 3 months and it seems to be that he has common colic period again present. What to do….it is not topic I wanted to talk about in this post. But the colic issue will bring me to the point.
I had again strong discussion with my husband about spoiling and not spoiling our kid by carrying him when he cries…….the question was whether he cries only when not being carried or because he is in pain. But you should hear his cry…………I think that in some moments the sound went to 1000 MHz and we could not hear voice of each other. So in this case my arms are always open for my son because I know how much he suffer. But there are moments when I think that he is playing with us. You know the time when you are playing with him, he is smiling and U just want to go on toilet or to coock and I used to put him into his craddle and he starts to cry…………..this moment is my NO WAY time. But since I am person which believes strongly in attache dparenting I pick my son and and try to calm him down again and again and again …………… 🙂 and U know “again”.
But in fact what attached parenting means not only for me but for thousands of parents is simple. We do believe that the infant (kid) can not be spoiled in the age of O-1 year and that by crying he is anouncing us some of his need so the way to calm him down is to carry him and share the love with him as much as possible. And the carrying and sleeping with the baby in the bed does not mean only be close to him but according to latest researches it shoes that the baby is in this way buiding stronger link with us as parents, that he will have stronger selfesteem and his character will be based on love and mutual touch with us as parents.
Here is beautiful article: Let the little one be your guide……you can learn a little more about this topic
I love this idea and I do not blame my little when he starts to demand attention. Because as I can see now he is already soo curious person, his eyes I “eating” every stimulous which is given to him and no wonder that he does not like just lying in the bed. He loves to move and see the worl………so till he will not be able to move by himself I will help him to explore the world around him through my arms and my legs…………..and to be honest. His smile is killing me, so when he smile at me I would do first and last for him so few hours of carying per day is the smallest things I can do for him. And I believe that every hour spend with him will be paid back in the future.
Soooooooooo carry carry carry and be attached 🙂 and not touched by the tireness and others saying that you should not carry your baby that much